Effective Pre-Marriage Coaching & Marriage Prep Course in New York City
Defining “You” Before “I Do”
A pre-marriage coaching program to create a thriving partnership that balances individuality, love, and communication
IMAGINE waking up on your wedding day feeling calm, grounded, and excited.
You know who you are and what you want for your life and marriage.
You’ve built a relationship that feels true to you—not what others think it “should” be.
You and your partner can handle difficult conversations and emotional triggers with calm, care, and respect.
You feel close and attracted to your partner and work together as a strong, supportive team.
And most of all, you’re not just ready to get married—you’re excited and ready for a partnership and life that feels aligned, intentional, and fully your own.
Are you ready to enter marriage feeling clear, confident, and fully yourself—with a relationship that fits you and supports your growth?
Defining “You” Before “I Do” is a pre-marriage group coaching program that gives you the blueprint to:
Feel confident that your relationship aligns with your personal values and goals.
Express your needs clearly and resolve conflict with your partner while maintaining love and respect.
Feel ready and excited for marriage and committed to continued growth – individually and together.
Your marriage doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
I know what it feels like to lose yourself in a marriage. I entered my first one doing what I thought I “should” do, not knowing how to resolve conflict in a healthy way, and unaware of my true, authentic self.
Over time, the romantic feelings disappeared, and I started to feel resentful and disconnected from myself and my partner. That marriage (a 10-year relationship) ultimately ended in divorce.
I’ve seen this happen to many other couples in my career as a divorce coach and lawyer.
But through it all, I never stopped believing in love. I’m now entering marriage again—this time with clarity, confidence, and a deep understanding of who I am and what I need to feel both connected and free.
This pre-marriage consulting program is my gift to my past newlywed self and to you—to enter marriage knowing it’s a two-person community where you keep growing as individuals and together, rooted in truth, growth, attraction, and love.
In this program, you will…
Get clear on your future and say “I do” to a life that fits you.
Build a marriage that aligns with your values and life, not outside pressure.
Handle challenges and triggers with care and respect.
Feel supported, seen, and excited to grow together.
MY SUPERPOWER:
Helping couples anticipate and avoid marriage hiccups before they happen.
In my 9+ years as a divorce lawyer and personal experience with divorce AND remarriage, I’ve witnessed countless times the challenges that lead to divorce.
I’ve learned there is no “perfect” way to do marriage, and it doesn’t have to look like what your family, friends, religion, or society says. Instead, I help you define YOUR marriage on YOUR terms.
In this pre-marriage counseling program, I provide a roadmap to create a partnership that supports all of who you are and defies the divorce statistic, by helping you align your relationship with your identity, values, and goals, and communicate it all effectively with your partner.
Is this you?
Ready to design a future that reflects your personal and shared goals and dreams?
Ready to build a marriage that feels true to you, not just tradition?
Ready to communicate clearly, set boundaries, maintain romance and attraction, and move through conflict with care?
How do I know if I’m really ready for marriage?
How do we split up the chores without arguing or feeling resentful?
How will we manage our money after we get married?
Introducing, Defining “You” Before “I Do”
A pre-marriage coaching program to create a thriving partnership that balances individuality, love, and communication.
Inside this 4-week, pre-marriage group coaching program, you will:
Define what you want your future to look and feel like, both personally and as a couple.
Design roles, routines, and relationship agreements that reflect your values and goals—not outside expectations.
Learn how to express your needs clearly and have productive conversations with your partner without fear, guilt, or shutting down.
Understand your emotional patterns and learn how to respond instead of react during conflict.
Build the confidence and emotional readiness to enter marriage with intention, joy, and trust in your partnership.
What past and current clients are saying:
“I gained the confidence that I was doing the right things, the right way, at the right time, and the self assessment at the beginning was a helpful tool.” –Ciaran
“Kara is a great listener and asks questions that really make you think about your situation. Having her to talk with has been so helpful. Her unique perspective as a neutral third party and attorney background was objective and very useful.” –Michelle
What You Get Inside The 4-Week Program:
Weekly Group Coaching Calls (4)
Each week includes a 60-minute group call with education, open discussion, and hot seat coaching for the specific challenges in your relationship. This mix gives you the space to learn, share, and be supported exactly where you are.
Assessments + Debriefs (4)
You’ll complete 4 assessments on specific topics that provide further clarity and guidance, so you can create a marriage that honors who you are:
(1) The True You Values Finder – Get clear on what matters to you most.
(2) The Roles and Rhythms Formula – Design marriage roles and responsibilities that fit your life.
(3) The Marriage Playbook – Navigate tough talks with ease.
(4) Your Marriage Energy Map – An iPEC-informed tool to understand your stress and communication patterns.
Private Coaching Session (1)
A personalized, 1-hour coaching session to dig deeper into your unique questions, assessment results, challenges, goals, and walk away with a clear plan for what’s next.
Guided Journal Prompts
Go deeper with powerful prompts designed to help you identify what you truly want in key areas like communication, finances, values, romance/intimacy, and more. These reflections help you tune into your voice, gain clarity, and make aligned choices before bringing them into real conversations.
Bonus Expert Calls (1-3)
Hear from guest experts who specialize in areas like money, love + intimacy, boundaries, triggers, and more. These bonus sessions give you extra tools to strengthen your partnership in all the areas that matter most.
Community
Receive ongoing support and feedback between coaching calls via the Voxer app, where you’ll have access to chat with the group and privately with me. This is your chance to share challenges, insights, wins, and more. You’re never navigating this work alone!
How Does It Work?
Step 1
Join the Program
Get clear on what you want in a marriage, create a relationship that fits your life and values, solve problems with respect, and feel more connected with and supported by your partner.
Step 2
Set aside 2 hours per week
Each week, you’ll join a group call, complete journal prompts and an assessment, and share in Voxer. You’ll also schedule a private coaching session at your convenience. Bonus calls with guest experts will also be offered. All calls are recorded in case you miss one or want to re-watch later.
Step 3
Actively Participate
Join group calls to learn, ask questions, share wins, or get coached through challenges. Use Voxer between calls to check in, get support, and celebrate progress in real time.
This pre-marriage consulting program is FOR YOU if you are a bride-to-be, fiancée, or newlywed AND:
You want a modern marriage that feels true to YOU, even if it doesn’t look like your family’s or friends’.
You want to keep growing and exploring your interests after your wedding, individually and together.
You value personal growth and want to stay true to yourself in your marriage.
This program is NOT for you if:
You want a one-size-fits-all marriage manual or quick fix.
You’re not open to self-reflection or deeper conversations about yourself, your relationship, or your future.
You prefer to avoid conflict or uncomfortable truths in your life or relationship.
You’re unwilling to challenge traditional expectations that don’t align with your values.
What’s the investment?
Take advantage of the pre-launch price of $750 by signing up before May 31st, which will save you $150! (Normal program cost is $999.)
ADD-ON OPTIONS:
Further enhance your marriage preparation by adding on any of the following:
2 couples coaching sessions at a discounted rate of $200 each (Normally $350/session – savings of $450)
Additional 1:1 coaching sessions at a discounted rate of $100 each (Normally $250/session – savings of $450) (limited to 3 additional sessions)
What my clients are saying
“I learned many things working with Kara: My core values. How much I’ve changed in the past few years. Things that I’ve messed up / didn’t pay enough care or attention to in my relationship. My maturity and strength.” –Jamie
“I appreciated Kara’s warm, compassionate and empathetic listening skills and the tools she offered.” –Michele
F.A.Q.’s
This pre-marriage counseling program is designed to help you get clear on who you are and what you truly want in a marriage—not to tell you what to do.
If clarity leads to hard truths, you’ll have a judgment-free space and supportive community to navigate them with compassion, courage, and confidence, regardless of your ultimate decision.
This isn’t a checklist or a one-size-fits-all framework based solely on religious teachings.
Rather, this program is about you holistically – your identity, your values, your voice.
You’ll walk away with real tools, deeper clarity, and a relationship vision that’s actually aligned with the life you want to live.
Nope. This is a space just for you. While you’ll have the tools to bring these conversations into your relationship, the focus of the program is on getting clear and grounded within yourself first—so you can show up to your relationship with intention and confidence.
However, if you would like support navigating these conversations with your partner, you can add on 2 couples coaching sessions at a discounted rate – check out the Add-On Options above!
Totally normal. You don’t need to have it all figured out to start – you start where you are.
You’ll be guided through reflective prompts, personalized support, and bite-sized tools that make it easier to understand what you feel and express it without fear or pressure.
You’ll also have private chat access with me if you ever feel uncomfortable sharing something in the group chat.
This pre-marriage coaching program is flexibly designed with real life in mind. All the calls are recorded, you can complete the journal prompts on your own time, and you’ll have access to Voxer for support between sessions. You can move at your own pace and still get everything you need.
Ready to join Defining “You” Before “I Do?
Interested, but not quite ready to commit? I’ve got you:
Let’s jump on a Discovery Call to discuss further!
In addition, check out my FREE Modern Marriage Prep Guide, you’ll explore your personal goals, communication style, and vision for partnership—so you can approach marriage with confidence, clarity, and intention.
This is the first step to building a relationship that supports your growth and happiness for the long haul.
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